How to confront unkind acts with kindness and compassion – A HHD workshop

All of us want to be part of warm and welcoming communities, and to do our part to create them.  But even bright people with good intentions can miss the mark.  That’s what t’shuvah (repentance or returning) is all about.  In many areas of our lives, including at Keddem we want to return to civility, mutual respect and self-respect.  We have often forgotten, and need to remember, to treat each other in a manner that is in harmony with the divine spirit in each of us, the spirit that leads us to become the best we each can be.  This means confronting the behaviors that threaten our intention to be a holy community.  We will focus on how to respond to each other with mutual respect, compassion, and support, when we witness a behavior which is not in line with our values. These practices will not only help Keddem stay true to its values, but will help us carry those values into all areas of our lives in the coming year.

Acting with Kindness, Respect and Compassion

We have heard your concerns about how we sometimes treat each other. We have a plan; please join us in making it work. As a first step, the Board adopted for itself — and to model for the congregation — a new value of acting with kindness, respect and compassion. We recognize that as a community, we have not always intervened when someone has acted outside this value. Our consultant, Jerry Talley, is creating a training session for Keddem leaders on how to respond in such situations with kindness, respect and compassion.
We are also offering this session as one of the Yom Kippur afternoon workshops. On Yom Kippur afternoon we read from the Torah “You shall not stand idly by the blood of your neighbor. Protest against hatred so that you don’t share that sin. You shall love your neighbor as yourself” (Leviticus 19:16-18). During this time of reflection and atonement, join us in renewing our community by learning how to compassionately protest mistreatment, and by resolving to support others in doing so.

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